One thing I’ve always had trouble with is my joint identity as a female and as a cinephile. Many films and directors I like, even love, often treat women in ways that either objectify them or seem to promote the mistreatment of them. But my anger at this is usually brought back down by the little voice inside my head screaming “but it’s such a good movie.”

On that note, yesterday, I noticed that Radar Online posted their take on the “decade’s most misogynistic movies.” Their picks ranged from Mona Lisa Smile and Wedding Crashers to She Hate Me and 13 Going on 30 and while in many cases I agree with their assessment, the list still troubles me. The fact is, despite their misogynistic nature, a lot of folks, women and men alike, went to see these films - and to me then, the questions becomes why? As long as people go to the theater, Hollywood will continue to make these films.

Of course, some might argue that people only see what’s put out there, what they have access to. With that, I present with an opposite list of sorts - “some of the decade’s more feminist movies” if you will - or to be less political about it all, films from this decade that portray real women, dealing with real issues, often showing how awesome, strong, complex and special women can be.

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I like porn. Lot’s of folks do. Whether it’s a late night Skinomax flick or a quick ditty from Youporn.com, I think a little porn can be a healthy addition to one’s sex life. It can be educational. It can spice up a relationship. And quite simply, it can be good times.

Yes, while there is plenty of porn that is indeed disgusting, degrading, and down right horrifying there are also equal amounts of lots that’s fun, fascinating, and fantastic. I’m sorry, but I will never think all porn is bad.

I think we’re becoming desensitized to porn. Between easy Internet porn access and celebrities “leaking” sex tapes left and right, porn is moving more and more into the mainstream.

A study reported last week that “college students, including young women, are far more accepting of pornography than their parents, a shift that might be related to easy access to porn on the Internet. Most young women in the study said they personally did not use porn, but nearly half said viewing X-rated material was an acceptable way to express sexuality. Only 37% of the fathers and 20% of the mothers surveyed agreed.”

The study also “linked regular porn use with risky behaviors saying regular porn users were more likely to go on drinking binges and more likely to have sex with multiple partners.”

Drinking binges? Uh oh, am I watching more porn than I thought? Because that may explain my problem with this.